Help your child sleep

I know some children that like to have weight on their body when they sleep. It has been know that using a weighted blanket helps children with autism. These blankets are not just for those with a condition. I, myself love to have the weight on many blankets just because it feels so good! Here is a post I found for how to make one with out the ridiculous price they try to charge for a “specialty” blanket!

Weighted Blanket DIY

Let me know how it goes for you!

“The Red Button”

This class features strategies to empower parents to remain calm and stop child out bursts before they happen.

Key topics covered:

  • Communication
  • Routine  and
  • Behavior

This is a fun interactive class that will leave you feeling empowered and confident.  (45 mins)

If you are interested in having me come please contact me at: ece4parents@gmail.com

Child Development 

Each Child is a Unique Individual

By nature, children differ in terms of their activity level, distractibility and sensitivity. Parents and caregivers who accept and understand these differences in children’s styles will be in a better position to offer effective appropriate guidance for them.

Children’s Behavior Reflects their level of development. When adults recognize that growth entails both experimenting and making mistakes, and that difficulties are normal, expected part of children’s development, they tend to be more excepting and patient with socially unacceptable behavior. It is important to have reasonable expectations which are consistent with each child’s development abilities. When adults have an understanding of appropriate developmental issues for children, they are more effective in dealing with them. You need to take the time to offer developmentally appropriate verbal explanations and guidance to help gain children’s confidence, competence, and social problem-solving skills.

The Wisdom Of French Parenting

1. HOW FRENCH PARENTS TALK TO INFANTS



They Are Listening!

The French believe that babies are not insensate blobs, but rather rational beings who can learn and (sort of) communicate what they’re thinking and how they’re feeling.

What You Can Do With This?

Observe your infant closely for long periods in order “tune in” to what they’re experiencing and learn to follow their cues. The French believe you can develop a sensitivity through this process that is a crucial caregiving quality (and may result in your wife no longer berating you for being so insensitive).
Model good manners by being polite to your infant; don’t use a condescending sing-song voice and say things like please and thank you, even if you feel ridiculous saying things like please and thank you to an infant.

2. WHY FRENCH KIDS SLEEP THROUGH THE NIGHT SO EASILY

Babies Will “Do Their Nights” If You Let Them

At the end of each sleep cycle, babies may wake up and cry, which is part of how they learn to connect cycles into an entire night’s sleep. They can also be really active — like, thrash-all-over-the-crib active — without ever waking up. The French tend not to worry too much about this stuff.

What You Can Do With This?

Learn “the pause,” which is a five minute beat French parents take when a sleeping baby starts crying. It gives your kid a chance to get themselves back to sleep without your help.

Let your baby nap with the blinds open, so they understand the difference between a daytime nap and night time, when they will sleep for real.

Talk to your kid about why everyone needs to sleep at night (see that above bit about the French belief in babies’ comprehension) and tell them how confident you are in their ability to learn how to do it. Eventually, they’re going to prove you right and you’ll look like a genius.

3. HOW FRENCH PARENTS GET THEIR KIDS TO EAT SO WELL

There Are No “Kid Foods”

French parents feed their kids more or less the same things they eat, as do the State-run day care and schools. As a general rule, French kids are healthy, adventurous eaters who don’t act like vegetables are poisonous alien appendages.

French kids are healthy, adventurous eaters who don’t act like vegetables are poisonous alien appendages.

Lay Off The Snacks

In addition to feeding their kids the same foods, French parents also feed their kids the same meals: 3 a day, with one afternoon snack. There aren’t a lot of sweets or junk foods, and the kids don’t tend to whine about it.

What You Can Do With This?

As soon as your kid is ready for solid food, start them on flavorful vegetables, instead of the bland cereals. The French believe a sophisticated palate starts at the beginning.
At the same time, get them on a schedule that mirrors the family’s schedule, rather than feeding them on demand — this can be challenging if you, yourself, expect to be fed on demand.

Cut out all but one afternoon snack. It teaches kids patience and self control, and they’ll be hungrier when it’s time for a meal. Hungry kids eat better.

Serve vegetables first, when the kid is most hungry. From there, don’t customize the menu. Everyone eats the same stuff.

They don’t have to eat anything if they don’t like it, but they do have to try everything on the table. Pay attention to what they don’t like and reintroduce it at another meal with a different preparation.

Get beyond “like/don’t like.” Talk to your kid about specific flavors and textures and compare them to other foods. This gives you a better understanding of why they like or don’t like things, and should spark their curiosity about other foods.

Don’t torture them. The French keep meals short and sweet and excuse their kids after 20 minutes or so.

4. WHY FRENCH KIDS ARE SO WELL BEHAVED

Patience Isn’t Just A Virtue — It’s An Expectation

The French believe that coping with frustration and delaying gratification are skills that kids can learn, and they teach them accordingly. Patience is valorized and a sense of calm cultivated, so kids understand what’s expected of them.

What You Can Do With This?
Don’t drop everything the moment your kid “needs” you. Calmly explain that you need to finish cooking breakfast, sending an email, brushing your teeth, whatever, before you can admire their latest picture of the dog.
Don’t let your kid interrupt you, and don’t interrupt them. If you tell them you’ll be with them in a moment, make good on that promise and extend them the same courtesy.

Have high expectations for their ability to control themselves. Teach them how to get their favorite toy without ransacking the entire playroom, and communicate your confidence that they can do it that way — every time.

Don’t let them think they’re the center of the universe (even if they’re the center of your universe).

5. ONE REASONS WHY THE FRENCH AREN’T THE END-ALL-BE-ALL OF PARENTING ADVICE

The Whole Liberté, Égalité, Fraternité Thing Doesn’t Apply To Parents
According to Druckerman, French mothers contribute 89 percent more to their families house work and child care than French fathers. American parents might be stressed out and indulgent, but mothers in the U.S. do only 25 percent more house work and child care than the fathers.

https://www.fatherly.com/summary-bringing-up-bebe-1120977983.html

Walking Through Separation Anxiety

Teary goodbyes are a common part of a child’s earliest years. Around their first birthday, many kids develop separation anxiety, getting upset when a parent leaves.

Though separation anxiety is a perfectly normal part of childhood development, it can be unsettling.

Understanding what your child is going through and having a few coping strategies can help both of you get through it.

How Separation Anxiety Develops:

Babies adapt pretty well to other caregivers. Parents probably feel more anxiety about being separated than infants do! As long as their needs are being met, most babies younger than 6 months adjust easily to other people.

Sometime between 4-7 months, babies develop a sense of object permanence and begin to learn that things and people exist even when they’re out of sight. This is when babies start playing the “dropsy” game — dropping things over the side of the high chair and expecting an adult to retrieve it (which, once retrieved, get dropped again!).

The same thing occurs with a parent. Babies realize that there’s only mom or dad, and when they can’t see you, that means you’ve gone away. And most don’t yet understand the concept of time so do not know if or when you’ll come back.

How long does separation anxiety last?

It varies, depending on the child and how a parent responds. In most cases separation anxiety can last from a few weeks to two months. Usually after the child becomes comfortable with their new routine, the anxiety subsides and they understand that they are safe, loved and have fun at Daycare too!

Keep in mind your little one fully understands the effect their behavior has on you.

If you come running back into the room every time your child cries and then stay there longer or cancel your plans, your child will continue to use this tactic to avoid separation.

What You May Be Feeling:

During this stage, you might experience different emotions. It can be gratifying to feel that your child is finally as attached to you as you are to him or her. But you’re likely to feel guilty about taking time out for yourself, or going to work. And you may start to feel overwhelmed by the amount of attention your child seems to need from you.

Keep in mind that your little one’s unwillingness to leave you is a good sign that healthy attachments have developed between the two of you. Eventually, your child will be able to remember that you always return after you leave, and that will be enough comfort while you’re gone. This also gives kids a chance to develop coping skills and a little independence.

 Making Goodbyes Easier:

These strategies can help ease kids and parents through this difficult period:

1. Be calm and consistent.

Create an exit ritual during which you say a pleasant, loving, and firm goodbye. Stay calm and show confidence in your child. Reassure him or her that you’ll be back — and explain how long it will be until you return using concepts kids will understand (such as after lunch).

2. Give him or her your full attention when you say goodbye, and when you say you’re leaving, mean it; coming back will only make things worse.

3. Follow through on promises. It’s important to make sure that you return when you have promised to. This is critical — this is how your child will develop the confidence that he or she can make it through the time apart.

As hard as it may be to leave a child who’s screaming and crying for you, it’s important to have confidence that they will be okay, safe and loved and that the tears will only last a short period of time until they are distracted with fun and toys and learning. It may help both of you to set up a time that you will call to check in, maybe 15 to 20 minutes after you leave. By that time, most kids have calmed down are playing with other things.

It’s Only Temporary:

Remember that this phase will pass. If your child has never been cared for by anyone but you, or is naturally shy, it may take a little extra time. But be confident in your choice of care, you know you’ve done everything possible to make sure it’s what’s best for your little one.

What are some other ways you help your child cope though new situations?

Imagination

Sometimes your child will come up to you with something they have created! Ask them to tell you about it! They then may tell you a grand story all about it that makes absolutely no sense to you! Anyone been there? I know I have! It is however very important to get down to their level, make eye contact and show genuine interest. This supports their creativity and imagination! There are so many children I come across these days that have difficulty with imagination due to the instant nature our world has become. Listening and asking questions will support their emotional and social aspects of their life also as they develop listening skills as you ask them questions too! This works for all age groups even the toddlers that may not quite have word articulation. We all know they have something to say!

Look what I built!!!! What is it you ask? You tell me!

Teaching about Materialism

I love how Randy Alcorn puts this: “How can we teach our children the emptiness of materialism in a direct and memorable way? Try taking them to visit a junkyard or dump? The lines are shorter than at amusement parks, and admission is free. Show them all the piles of “treasures” that were formally Christmas and birthday presents. Point out the things that cost hundreds of dollars, and that children quarreled over. Show them the miscellaneous remnants of battered dolls, rusted robots and electronic gadgets that now lie useless after their brief lifespan. To teach them the value of relationships over material possessions.”

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